Tuesday, August 24, 2010

ring ring, reality's calling

i like to think that i'm a relatively good girl. relatively. but i have to admit that in the past i have certainly not always exercised the best of my discretion. i have taken part in some pretty common behavior and made some pretty common "mistakes", all in the course of casually dating.

dating the alpha boy has been good for me. especially since he's as proper as he is. he made me realise that not everyone was just like the people i was familiar with in the party scene, that there were indeed other people out there who weren't players engaging in random behavior.

since then i've also had time to personally reflect upon my own past behavior, acknowledge the mistakes i made and to be responsible for my dating failures. maybe this is making me more sensitive to what i may deem as other people's dating mistakes.

the "booty caller" is one such train wreck. he and i got to know each other online almost 2 years ago. time has since flown by and though we chat online occasionally, we've never met up in person. initially i would have, until i started feeling like all he wanted to do when we met up was to make out with me. and while i may have engaged in random making out before, i feel it's kinda strange and somewhat pressurising to have a relative stranger tell me that online. i probably didn't immediately block and delete him maybe 'coz somehow he amused me with his conversation bout girls.

recently he IMed me and shared that he just got laid. brilliant. power to you mate. now, he's shared before that he's slept with around 40 women which he doesn't consider to be a lot. me being the prude, thinks that that's a heck of a lot. but i don't judge 'coz frankly i don't care. and i care even less bout him. that's all well and good and all except that he finds the need to then whine that the women he's been with were just using him for his body and how he feels used.

hello? reality check? it's not like he was an unwilling party in all of this. sure, the girls may have proposed the one night stands and subsequent friends with benefits situations but in which part of this did he not get a say?

when i called him out on this, saying that he isn't exactly taking sex seriously anyway and therefore probably exactly isn't in the position to "complain", he protested that he does and that he is just "spreading the love" (and by the way, eww, if i may say...). yeah that still doesn't hold any water. he claims that he wants to find a girlfriend and all that but seemed surprised when i pointed out that maybe his actions doesn't really make him seem like a good boyfriend material. afterall as much as you're choosing someone, someone is choosing you too.

dating can be hard but i'm pretty sure last i checked, nothing says "date me" like promisciousity...not.



At 6:47 PM, Blogger Please Don't Eat With Your Mouth Open said...

Not to mention nothing says "sad", "lonely" and "desperate" like a bloke who logs onto MSN to find said girls to have sex with.

I think you've had a lucky escape there ;)

At 8:10 PM, Blogger Toni said...

Whatever happened to the good old fashioned way of meeting a girl in a bar, plying her with booze and pretending she was the love of your life? I give up on this new generation.

At 9:24 AM, Blogger Lifebeginsat30ty said...

Yeah, some people are clueless. He seems lonely, or weird, for only having a random girl he met online years ago to tell these things to!

At 10:01 AM, Anonymous Anonymous said...

40 girls? The average guy sleeps with 7 women before marriage. So that is not a prude way of thinking.
There are names for guys like that. Man whore.

At 5:46 PM, Blogger Little Miss Angry said...

lol. your last sentence made me laugh. but so, so true!

and who boasts about the number of people they've slept with? loser.. i say.

At 12:02 PM, Blogger jo said...

please don't eat with your mouth open: yeah well he only wanted to make out with me, not sleep with me... yet? haha! you're right, i got off lucky. only 'coz i flat out refused.

toni: hahaha! i love your comment. i think the old generation's style would have worked like a charm.

lifebeginsat30ty: yeah i too think he's strange. but of 'coz he makes me seem perfectly normal haha!

dobez_gaga: 7 women eh? thanks for letting me know 'coz i really did start to wonder if maybe i was being an extra prude. i would have thought under 10 was bout "normal".

little miss angry: true that. i've heard that the ones who really can get laid, never talks bout how often he gets laid and how good he is in bed.

At 12:40 AM, Blogger Edlund said...

booty calls are no good.

At 3:03 PM, Anonymous Latin Dating said...

Yes very true.

At 1:43 AM, Blogger Rockabilly Hippie said...

I'll bet love aint all he's spreading!

Love the blog, love the comments and love that I'm not the only prude out there :-)

At 11:38 AM, Anonymous healy said...

all of this is true. . .very true! you dosed me of something real. Thanks


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