Thursday, March 17, 2011

if you don't mind, i'll like to have that too please, thankyouverymuch

i've come to realise that dating is a lot like job hunting. and that there is something bout the other jo that makes her excel in both.

she's never had any problems in job hunting. if anything, she's turning down offers left and right. it doesn't matter how long she's been out of the market, if she's looking, they're offering. but on the flip side she's also rarely contented or satisfied and not the easiest person to deal with.

similarly in her dating life, she moves from one boyfriend to another. she was getting emotionally close to her super nice ex while she was dating her previous ex. and this time round, she was looking around before she eventually broke up with her super nice ex and a lil under 2 months later is now coupled up with a new boyfriend. and she always seems to get the ones that are all into her.

but i wonder how much is too much too soon?

the new german boyfriend has essentially told her that he loved her and suggested that they move in together. after barely 2 months?? a quick check on his relationship background showed that his relationships seldom had lasting power. they usually fizzled out after a few months. but of 'coz he claimed that this time with her it was different. he's never felt like this with anyone before. he thinks she's the one. she's over the moon and thinks the same but hasn't told him yet.

he sounds like someone who falls in love fast. someone who does all these lovely gestures (like travelling all the way just to meet her for lunch during work and then travelling all the way back) but who ultimately may not be able to sustain it.

am i cynical? am i bitter?
maybe... but mostly i just want her luck/skill/whatever it is. i sure could use it.


At 6:55 PM, Blogger Lifebeginsat30ty said...

The grass is always greener! I have a friend who I used to be jealous of her ability to attract men all over the place and how she had a boyfriend constantly. Turns out she's a committment-phobe and moves from boy to boy in order to not get hurt.

Wow, 2 months?! To each his own!

At 3:42 AM, Blogger flamencokitty said...

I do sometimes get a little envious of my friends who go through so many "boyfriends" in a year (month, week...). I wish my milkshake brought boys to the yard like that a little bit! But then again, quality vs quantity...

At 1:29 PM, Blogger jo said...

flamencokitty: your quote of kelis's lyrics made me chuckle :)

At 4:08 AM, Blogger s.212 said...

ah I have a friend just like this! I love her and all but damn does she like to jump from one boyfriend to another right away! I also know of friends who've told me that they'll stay with a current boyfriend if they have no other "prospects" in sight, which is pretty sad.


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