a different school of thought

recently i met up with some ex-classmates for our supposed monthly gatherings (though we’ve missed out on meeting in the last 2 months and this time it was a much smaller group and far less fun). and normally when we do, we take this time to have a quick catch up on everyone’s life, mainly relationships.

somehow we wound up back on the subject of how holding hands meant that you are part of a couple in a relationship. everyone shared that view… everyone but me.

compared to the vast majority, i do believe that i’m considered to be rather conservative. but for some reason, when you compare me with this group of friends, i seem like such a slut haha!

and i’m wondering yet again if they are being naïve and that i’m the one who is living in the “real world” and seeing “real world” happenings and experiencing some of ‘em. or if maybe i just got it all wrong.

but honestly, besides this group (and possibly maybe some other church friends), i don’t know anyone else who subscribes to this school of thought. when did holding hands or kissing or even having sex with someone meant that you guys were officially together? sure it means that you’re not totally unattracted to the person... but doesn’t officially together kinda need like a dtr (define the relationship) talk first? so that you know everyone is on the same page and all that.

i guess you can say that i’m slightly confused. and maybe even a part of me wishes it was that simple as how this group of friends view it to be. if that were really the case, then there wouldn’t be all the confusing, complicated grey areas that seem to plague the rest of us.

so maybe the next time a guy tries to hold my hand and i actually let him, i will then ask him “so does this mean that we’re officially together now?” and if a guy tries to kiss me and i kiss him back, i will then ask him “so does this mean that we’re going to get married?”

i’ll either get a boyfriend (or married!) so fast that my head will spin, or he will run away so fast that my head will spin as well. oh well maybe that’s worth a try anyhow? haha!