and now i know why they say talking bout it is better

last night the alpha boy and i met up with his ex and then with one of her guy friends. when she first saw us, she surprised me by enveloping me with a hug and then giving the alpha boy a hug as well. i mean i only just met her briefly less than a week ago and wasn't expecting a hug from her. this time after walking around together for a bit and then having dinner together, i got to know her a bit better.

and i definitely do like her. strangely enough i could even see the possibility that if this carries on in the future, we could actually wind up to be friends. according to the alpha boy, the "other woman" doesn't really have close female friends. frankly i'm not surprised. for one, she thinks most women are flaky (which i suppose can be somewhat true though i'm not really the flaky kind) and for another, i can imagine the guys all being into her. there's just something bout her. i don't necessarily think she's a flirt, but she is rather touchy (though still not overly so). and has the kind of infectious energy to back her up. and of 'coz let's be honest here, she's very attractive. that always helps.

i suppose in some ways it made sense and maybe somewhat made things a wee bit better when she's that way with the alpha boy. he's a close friend and that's just how she is with everyone. so at least i know that it's not a super special treatment towards him. but then again when i think bout their long regular phone conversations, i think to myself, okay i still feel weird bout that.

so i couldn't quite take it anymore and decided to tell him... of 'coz via text.

jo: so ive thought bout this for a bit n i think tt e whole situation w u n *insert name of the "other woman"* is still a lil strange to me. i think maybe e thing is tt im not entirely sure how comfy i am knowing tt there is another woman in ur life tt ure tt close to, talk tt much to n confide in. e whole ex thing also doesnt help. i feel strange telling u this coz i do trust u n i actually like her n i meanits not like ive known u for very long. but yeah just letting u know i suppose.

i guess his reply was rather reassuring...

the alpha boy: hmm alright sweets... i'm glad you told me... better than stewing in it! since that's the case i guess i'll cut down on the time i spend on the phone with her? truth is i don't really spend as much time with her on the line anymore...

i know that he has already cut down the time he spends with her on the line, but that's the scary part... with it being cut down, it's already quite a lot. well i guess it's a good thing that i told him and he seems to be rather understanding of how i feel. let's hope this works out for the better.