the draft series: oct 2006

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original date: 18 oct 2006
title: the intimacy timeline

when i was young... waay before i had any real contact with guys... i used to have what i now call the intimacy timeline.

somehow i thought that physical intimacy with guys had to go through stages. one step at a time.
1st step: find a boyfriend
2nd step: holding hands
3rd step: holding waist / thigh
4th step: kiss on the cheek / forehead
5th step: kiss on the lips
6th step: french kiss
7th step: marriage
8th step: sex

but in reality, oh man did those steps get all jumbled up.

the first thing i've noticed is that the 1st step: find a boyfriend doesn't even need to be satisfied in order to progress to the other steps. the 4th step: kiss on the cheek / forehead is usually more of a friends thing. the 5th step: kiss on the lips tend to be more of a grey area. where it's like you're friends and yet not quite just friends. and the 2nd, 3rd and 6th steps are usually all lumped together where the 2nd step is likely to be missed out very easily. and i didn't take in consideration the forgotten step: groping which in itself could be split into a few steps.

as for 7th step: marriage coming before 8th step: sex. well let's just say that while that's a lovely and romantic idea, it's not exactly the most commonly popular behavior.

sometimes i wish for those innocent and naive young days where things seemed more black and white. where things progressed at a steady pace instead of a hop, skip and jump. it would probably be less confusing.

i think that would be nice.

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i still think it would be nice. maybe not usually realistic but nice. and i'm glad that for the most part, the alpha boy and i followed that timeline. or at least the 1st step was actually our 1st step which i thought was refreshing and sweet.

as for everything else? yeah well that was jumbled...