Wednesday, December 19, 2007

parental matchmaking?

i have a good friend who i've known since we were classmates when we were 15. especially in the last few years we haven't contacted much less met up to catch up. but perhaps 'coz of the length of time i've known her, she still remains pretty much a good friend in that sense.

a week ago she contacted me, initiating a quick meet-up which i unfortunately could not fit into my schedule. a few days ago, she contacted me again. which is pretty rare... but then she must have decided that she couldn't wait for a face-to-face meeting to tell me the good news... she's getting married!

i was pretty surprised especially since she's only known her current boyfriend for 3 months. and even then, they had gotten together bout 2 months after she broke up with her ex boyfriend of bout 4 years. this current beau was introduced to her by her mother. yes, she went through the family matchmaking route... and found a guy who she actually wanted to marry.

i'm really happy for her. my main concern was always that she would marry her ex boyfriend 'coz he just wasn't good for her. i haven't met the husband-to-be yet, but apparently friends and family who have met him have liked him. i suppose that's a very good sign. since her mom was so successful, i joked that perhaps she should matchmake me too.

so she's holding a very small ceremony in february. another surprise. i didn't expect her wedding to be that early. i mean it's not like they have to rush or whatever...

i have a feeling that this wedding will hit me pretty hard. it always does when a good friend gets married. it's always that in between feeling of happiness at your friend's bliss... and mild panic at why the heck can't you even find someone in the first place.

5 Comments:

At 9:27 PM, Anonymous adatingdiary said...

This is so true. You're happy for your friend, but at the same time want to same happiness. Its so bittersweet.

 
At 11:28 PM, Blogger Frankly, Scarlett said...

TWO MONTHS!? TWO MONTHS!? You sure she's not knocked up??

Maybe this is the way to go - get them to propose marriage so that the CAN"T break up with you a year from now!

Ugh - you be happy for your friend. i'll sit over here and hope the ring turns her finger green.

 
At 12:10 AM, Blogger Miss Pickle said...

I am so glad I am not the only one who feels this way...I always feel like I'm being such a bitch!

That whole bittersweet feeling is sometimes just too much to handle. Especially when you're the oldest in the group and still the only single one!! Frig...

 
At 12:33 AM, Blogger Scotty said...

I would feel the same way as you, situations like these only make me wonder your last sentence even more.

 
At 1:08 AM, Blogger jo said...

scarlett: your comment bout hoping the ring turns her finger green made me laugh haha! and no she's definitely not knocked up. i know my friend... not unless it was some immaculate conception :P

miss pickle: oh i know what you mean... sometimes i feel a twinge of that sour grapes mentality. since everyone is getting married, i just try and concentrate on the good things bout being single or whatever. i'm glad for my party girls who are in their mid 30s and single. well if you don't count that the yummy mommy has been divorced before...

 

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