we'll have a gay ole time

i have to admit that since getting coupled up, it's been quite a challenge to find time to meet up with my girlfriends. not that i don't try and make time, 'coz i do. but it's just that i'm a whole lot busier, and so are they. and frankly, we just don't party anymore, which traditionally has been just bout the only times i do meet up with them.

this weekend i was actually excited that it was all bout girl time.

my (now ex) party girl, the yummy mommy and i gathered together on friday night to celebrate our good friend, the ungirly hottie's birthday. it must have been bout 10 months since the 4 of us all hung out together (and there were various reasons that contributed to that including the yummy mommy's disappearance act and flakiness) and it was really good to meet up again.

since the ungirly hottie's business partner is gay and they had mutual gay friends who were there for her birthday dinner, we all trooped over to a gay bar for drinks. i've never been to a gay bar before though i've always wanted to. and i have to say that i love it. i've never felt so safe and in a very "girlfriend" environment. we just lounged around in couches, drank strong fruity martinis and ate birthday cake.

later, us 4 girls went to one of our (formerly) usual clubs to party. i've definitely gone off the whole clubbing scene. there was nothing there that interested me. but all in all it was a nice night with my girls.

on saturday night, another bunch of girlfriends planned a birthday surprise for my new (now ex) party BFF's (who probably really needs a new nickname) 30th birthday. i've hung out with some of those girls before but i was never all that close to them and i hadn't even met half of them before. but i do like my new (now ex) party BFF and get along with her pretty well and i hadn't seen her in over 6 months.

the surprise party went really well. some girls met her for dinner and then brought her to a bar (in a boutique hotel owned by the family of one of the other girl's boyfriend) where the rest of us were hiding there waiting. it was there that we all surprised her by turning up with a cake. and then we all sat there chatting, drinking strawberry mojitos, eating birthday cake and generally having an awesome time.

and to round that all up, a relatively good friend came to town. she moved away a few years ago when she got married and we would catch up each time she came back for a holiday. this time though, her reason for coming back wasn't all that joyous as she shared that she was separating from her husband. all the same, it was good to catch up with her and i found myself wishing that she would move back...