benefits of being high maintenance

over the weekend, i went on a short sporting trip with one of my close friends in uni, her boyfriend and his guy friend from arizona that i've met previously.

it was a great trip. and i had a fabulous time. it was my first time trying the sport and it was exhilarating. the company was great too. i didn't realise that i would get along with my friend's boyfriend and the arizona guy as well as i did. it turned out that the guys and i were similar. equally warped, quick-witted, crazy and full of laughs. at that was why we were constantly being noisy with our laughing and joking around. i even had some great chats with the guys separately and the conversations were all very easy and varied. my friend's boyfriend and i talked easily bout the sport and work. the arizona guy and i covered more grounds including fitness, sports, books and other random stuff. plus we were perpetually teasing each other. i think it was quite clear that the guys and i were just comfy with each other.

by comparison my friend was so unapproachable and quiet. in fact i've never quite seen her this way before. she was just nitpicking her boyfriend on so many little things. the friend i've always known wasn't like that with just us girls. and even as her friend, there were times when i really wished she would just lighten up.

on the journey back, my friend and her boyfriend went off to a corner for a while to chat. it was then that the guy from arizona turned to me and said that he hoped they were better now. that led to me asking him if they were always like that since i hardly spent time with the 2 of 'em together. turns out he's always seen my friend behaving that way.

this made me wonder. what is it bout such girls that made guys want to bend over backwards to please 'em. my friend's boyfriend was nothing short of sweet, giving and concerned. it was obvious that he was trying very hard to please her. but it was also obvious that she didn't make it easy for him.

i've never considered myself to be high maintainence. in fact i'm pretty easy-going. i tend to rationalise and give the other person the benefit of the doubt. i'm peace-loving and don't like to argue and pick a fight. i like fitness, sports and cars. and while i can be a pretty tough chick and not much of a girly girl, i'm by no means considered unfeminine. but yet i've hardly found any guy willing to make any effort to please me like that. maybe i should be more high maintainence. maybe i should try and nitpick, complain and accuse more often instead of being understanding and accomodating. apparently that works in getting a sweet, giving and concerned guy.