unreturned calls and texts

it seems like lately the theme surrounding me has been bout guys who somehow lack the ability to return a call or text. it's been talked bout in the blogs i read and it's something i've experienced quite a bit of... even right now.

i don't get it. seriously i just don't get it.

why do some people just don't return calls or texts?

did they forget? i suppose that's possible. but to entirely forget with no mention at all? i'm not sure if that's possible. it could take hours or days but usually it will come rushing back to the person and the person will remember.

perhaps they didn't think a response was even needed? well then that's just kinda rude. i mean calls are meant to be returned and certain text messages are worded such that it is implied that the sender would be expecting some form of response.

or maybe they deemed you as simply too unimportant to even be bothered to remember or respond to.

yes, i think that's probably the case.

'coz if you were indeed important and mattered enough, no way would a call or text go unreturned.

recently someone and i were IMing bout a christmas event. he was 'advertising' on his IM name for people to join and i was interested in the idea of being in a carolling choir and making balloon hats. the first meeting was over last weekend. at first i thought i could rush back from my sporting trip and make it but later it became clear that i wouldn't be in time. so i kindly sent a text to him informing him of this and also telling him to confirm the timing of the next meeting which was to be held this weekend so that i could make it.

he never replied.

this isn't the first time. it's obvious that i belong to the unimportant category in his mind. not just 'coz he didn't think to return a text but also 'coz of many other things he's done (or haven't done) before. i think that in the past great number of years, i've been constantly giving him excuses. in fact it really took the cake when last night i had a dream and in my dream he sent an information package on the christmas event which i took to mean some kind of 'explanation'. i woke up wondering if i should even accept this dream 'explanation'. i really need to stop. i need to see it for what it truly is.

so i decided that i wouldn't be joining the christmas event. not unless he actually replies to me. he may say that he's believing for more people than he already has. but he's obviously not doing a whole lot bout it if he's not even interested to get me to join. me, an already interested party.

i'm going to try and kick all of those guys who don't return calls and texts to the curb. of 'coz it's not really me kicking 'em to the curb since they were the ones who kicked me there first. i'm just trying to protect myself.

*disclaimer: girls are every bit as capable to not return calls and texts as well. i'm so not that kind of person (dammit!) but i've got plenty of girl friends who are that way even with other girl friends. i just find it harder to kick my flaky girl friends to the curb. but i'm definitely very close to with some of 'em...