why won't you call me

lately i've found myself being a listening ear to my friends' guy problems.

yesterday my best friend called me from overseas where she's living, crying bout a guy she liked. he's a good friend of hers and she just spent a week in a different state with him, helping him to move. nothing unplatonic happened between 'em. the kicker is this... his girlfriend is moving there soon. that was why he was moving in the first place.

during her trip, she had the time of her life. except for moments where she admitted that she was overcome with jealousy when he would happily talk to his girlfriend over the phone. she shared that she was so happy when they were at a place where there was no phone reception.

so after she went back alone from her trip with him, he never called. she then decided to be the first one to call him but apparently he was busy so the conversation was short. and now she's incredibly depressed. so depressed that she's flying back home for a few weeks.

it hate to see my best friend like this but at the same time she shouldn't have gotten so emotionally involved. she should have known where she stands... or doesn't stand.

today my party girl told me that she's thinking bout dumping her long-distance boyfriend. she had just come back from a trip with him over christmas and new year and hadn't heard from him yet. so unable to stop herself any longer, she texted him. he replied saying that he had some business review. a few days passed... as well as the day of the business review... he still hadn't contacted her.

so now she's handling it the only way she knows how. she's given up bothering. she deleted his contact from her IM list. she decided not to visit him next weekend during his birthday. she said she might wish him happy birthday though... and then dump him. despite my advice to at least talk to him bout how she feels, she seems determined not to do so. i can't help feeling that perhaps she's too harsh on him. he's been great all this while, which to me means he gets some slack and the chance to explain himself or change his ways.

this made me realise again how girls get so affected by a guy's non contacting ways. i don't know if sometimes we're setting ourselves up for hurt by wanting the unavailable/uninterested guy or if we're too demanding and expect too much from the guy we like. and i've been guilty of that as well. it just makes me wonder that if it's really meant to be shouldn't it be easier? why is dating or even finding someone to date so hard?