Thursday, June 14, 2007

'dating' round a busy schedule

how does a busy girl 'date'?

well, she practically doesn't.

so i'm beginning to think that this french guy that i met through the online dating site might be a lil too sensitive and sorta strange...

he texted me and sorta did a roundabout way of asking when we could meet up without actually really asking. he mentioned that he already had a lot of dates during the weekend thanks to the online dating site. i'm not sure if he was serious 'coz he then asked which weekend i wanted.

i gave him the next available weekend i had which was 8th july.

french guy: ok. let's forget then.

okay, understand this... i'm an immensely busy girl... and to prove it (even at the risk of being ridiculous), i will give a run down of my activities in the coming weeks...

15th june (fri): planned 2 weeks advance to meet my guy friend who i haven't seen in ages
16th june (sat): planned to meet up with my party girl for dinner
17th june (sun): planned to meet another guy friend to go to the museum

18th - 21st june (mon-thur): school twice a week. planned to meet a friend i haven't seen in over a year. busy with an event at work.
22nd june (fri): church group gathering
23rd june (sat): helping a friend choose her wedding gown. and then at night going for another friend's hen's night party
24th june (sun): personal appointments

25th - 27th june (mon-wed): school twice a week.
28th june - 01 july (thur-sun): overseas on company trip

02nd - 06th july (mon-fri): catching up on work. school twice a week.
07th july (sat): part of the bridal party at my friend's wedding

08th july (sun): next available weekend

i mean there was a reason why i suggested 8th july. i wasn't trying to be coy or difficult.

but apparently he couldn't seem to understand, despite me outlining my schedule.

french guy: i know what i told you but i finally came back to *insert name of online dating site*. maybe i will find someone who will really want to know me this time. bye bye.

well he did say hi to me later on IM and we had a chat. if he still wants to say goodbye, i can't and won't stop him. afterall it's not like i haven't already had to deal with a recent goodbye. and besides after this incidence, i'm really rethinking if he's suitable. he seems too sensitive. and we're not even together or anything and already he's assuming that i would be unhappy and wouldn't allow him to go drinking with his friends. goodness, i don't care at all. i understand the whole drinking to deal with some issues thing. so i mean go ahead and have fun with your friends.

he made some remark bout seeing me on 8th july... and then later he got sidetracked bout something and i'm not sure if it's confirmed. maybe i'll check in with him the next time we chat... if it's still a go, i'll meet him. but i'm still not sure if i'm liking this feeling i have that i have to walk on eggshells with him...

he texted me later while on the way out to drink with his friends...

french guy: thank you jo. sorry for what i told you. i can be complicated sometimes. you know what? you start to be special to me. good night.

and now he's making me feel worried that i might wind up hurting him without really meaning to just 'coz he's so sensitive...



At 3:52 PM, Blogger Crashdummie said...

OMG he sounds like such a dramaqueen. Geez!

I say run Jo run, and dont look back. You never know where you have ppl like this who play mindgames. Why can't you just be honest and upfront (ofcourse, tehre is a way and time for everything).

Just so sick N tired of this. baaaah!

At 3:53 PM, Blogger Heart Of Darkness said...

Don't waste your time on a guy that, from the getgo doens't a) understand you and b)tries to guilttrip you/show you how busy he is and how thankful you should be (and thereby also move every own plan aside) when he gets a moment off to see you.

Not worth your time!

Oh - what dating agency? I'm a busy girl, too... ;)

At 4:26 PM, Blogger jo said...

crashy: oh man! that is the word i was looking for! dramaqueen! i felt myself thinking that he's a bit of a girl so being so overly sensitive and seemingly making a big deal of us when there isn't an us.

actually he's honest and upfront. which might be the problem. he'll tell me straight up that he wanted to leave the online dating site to show me that he's seriously interested in getting to know me. he'll tell me that if he did or did not meet another girl. but i don't care. and i don't think he gets it.

hart: okay he isn't really guilt-tripping or trying to make me think he's all that. but he's a bit of a dramaqueen.

it wasn't a dating agency. those things cost a fortune! it's just an online dating site. freee! haha!

At 4:47 PM, Blogger Heart Of Darkness said...

Yes, I know, that's why I'm asking for the url! :D

At 11:30 PM, Blogger *kb* said...

I see a rather LARGE RED FLAG!!!!!! RUN GIRL RUN!!!!!!! :)

At 4:42 AM, Blogger socal sweetie said...

I agree with everyone else! This guy definitely has issues. Spend your time dating other guys who aren't such dramakings! =]

At 8:34 PM, Blogger Crashdummie said...

geez... well do keep me updated on the french dramaqueen


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