Thursday, June 12, 2008

insecurity

so you know what's the problem when you meet someone from an online dating site and then wind up really liking said person? do you know what's the real problem? it's when you realise that they've just logged into the online dating site just an hour ago.

okay so it's a lil like the pot calling the kettle black. who am i to hold the ad-man to a standard that i don't necessarily hold myself to? afterall wasn't i too logged into the online dating site? i was just checking out a new wink from someone whose profile didn't seem too bad but who didn't post a picture and i'm just wondering if i should take the risk to wink back.

i'm generally confident in myself and what i have to offer to a partner (which not to toot my own horn but i think is quite a fair bit) but every now and then we're allowed to be a lil insecure right? and i'm not going as far as to say that i'm really insecure, but when it comes to the ad-man, i'm admittedly a lil insecure at times.

not that i think he's a total player. in fact i do believe that he's one of those true blue types. but i think the "insecurity" is just one of those side effects of really liking a person who you don't know if he likes you back. it's the side effect of knowing that there are probably better girls out there in the online dating site than there are men and hence he's likely to be more successful than i would be. the side effect of acknowledging that honestly he's one of the hottest guys around. and i'm not just saying it, i mean he's hot enough to have been approached on a street a few years ago to be featured in a local female fashion magazine as one of the 50 most gorgeous people. while i'm not unattractive by most standards, i know my place and it's not exactly in the lineup of 50 most gorgeous people.

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yesterday night's IM conversation with the ad-man left me a lil sad and a lil hopeful.

i admit that i was a lil sad when he said...

the ad-man: but then my good pal jo comes online

i mean... ouch! good pal? that kinda stings...

but then i was almost a lil hopeful when he said...

the ad-man: man we should go drinking together

i mean drinking together usually speeds things up... or sometimes seals the deal in pure platonic friendship. or maybe i'm already just his good pal... i don't know... i guess we'll see...

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7 Comments:

At 12:09 AM, Blogger Scotty said...

Time will tell huh?

 
At 8:45 PM, Blogger Crashdummie said...

ouch, the buddy category huh?
Well as scotty said, time will tell...

 
At 4:56 AM, Blogger Tabbie. Like Cabbie, with a T. said...

He was probs checking to see when the last time you had signed in was!

 
At 1:05 PM, Blogger jo said...

tabbie: nah... he added recent pics... and i know they were recent 'coz... well... i talk to him regularly.

still the possibility of being in a good pal category sucks :(

 
At 7:20 AM, Blogger P.O.M. said...

Lurking around here...
That is one thing that prevents me from on-line dating again. I tried it once and it did not agree wiht me mostly because men totally lie (tall, dark and handsome my ASS).
But the fact that they are still "looking around" instead of focusing on how utterly awesome I am, bugs me.

 
At 3:36 PM, Blogger jo said...

p.o.m.: i totally agree with how guys should stop looking around and start focusing on how utterly awesome i am... well the right guy that is... or else it would be terribly difficult to get rid of the creepy ones haha!

 
At 10:53 AM, Blogger SaneAndSingle said...

It seems that online dating has become more like an all-you-can-eat buffet.

www.saneandsingle.blogspot.com

 

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