Wednesday, August 20, 2008

questions

is it bad that i'm starting to feel bored with drummer boy? or maybe 'coz lately he's been too involved in his computer games... he doesn't text me as much and even when he does, he sounds distracted. even his IM conversations sound distracted.

we definitely have physical chemistry and in some ways i can sorta be myself around him. but is that enough? what bout everything else? maybe i'm starting to feel that i'm lacking a certain intellectual stimulation.

is the so-called "honeymoon" period over? is this pseudo relationship reaching an end before it ever really started?

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At 6:50 PM, Blogger brooke said...

and i have the complete opposite..although i have the intellect and conversations, we have no chemistry, but i yearn for it! i love the conversations but want more...

 
At 8:53 PM, Blogger jo said...

brooke: oh yeah the no chemistry thing sucks too. why can't we have our cake and eat it? in perfect world, we'd have the intellect and conversations as well as the raw chemistry. perfect!

 
At 3:52 AM, Blogger brooke said...

oh yes...in a perfect world! :)

 
At 4:19 AM, Blogger Crashdummie said...

Could it be that you might be having unrealistic expectations and that you are looking for excuses?

 
At 8:35 AM, Anonymous Ecrivian said...

Hmmm...I disagree with crashdummie here. No offense, but what does that imply? That Jo settle...because the implication here is that you should stop looking for excuses and that you should make your expectations more "realistic"...and for what? Just so you can continue to be in a relationship?

If Drummer Boy is someone you genuinely like and you genuinely feel like you should try harder to make things work...then that's what you should do.

Otherwise, these "unrealistic expectations" and "excuses" simply indicate that you always knew he wasn't someone you really wanted to be in a relationship with and you're now allowing yourself to admit to it and walk away.

(Hope that doesn't sound too harsh...I just don't like it when there's an implication that someone should "try harder" when her heart's just not in it...why should we have to try harder?)

 
At 2:32 PM, Blogger jo said...

hmm i think i see both crashy's and ecrivain's side...

it's true that i do wonder sometimes if i have unrealistic expectations (and this applies to all guys in general) or if my slightly commitment phobic side is just looking for excuses not to commit. or maybe it's just that i simply have never had an idea of how to commit.

but that said i don't think i should be "settling". i don't expect perfection ('coz no one is perfect) but i do want a person who is perfect for me.

which of 'coz brings me to drummer boy...

for some unexplainable reason, i do genuinely like him. there are real feelings involved here. like with dj guy, i think drummer boy is "wrong on paper" and that we probably don't have a real future together. but it doesn't mean that my feelings aren't real. which i suppose is the reason why i haven't been able to fully commit to him. 'coz while i really like him, i don't see a future as yet. i just want to be with him for now.

which i guess brings me right back to square one?

 
At 12:31 AM, Anonymous lailani said...

video games?? pshhh. boys who play video games ARE boring.

 

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