it doesn't count if it's not a date

one of my "concerns" when i started the dating detox was the question of the alpha game player. i hadn't quite figured out what we were or more importantly how we felt bout the other. to borrow from the ladder theory, i guess i haven't figured out which ladder i've placed him on. maybe there should be a third ladder for this, the "i have no idea yet" ladder.

we've been chatting on the phone a fair bit. and there's no denying that we do get along in some ways despite being almost polar opposites (3 out of 4 indictors are different in our myers briggs personality type if that's anything to go from). i'm not entirely sure if he's interested or if he just likes me as a friend. and i'm sure he's just as unsure bout what i'm thinking or feeling as well.

if i had placed meeting up with him as a date, then it would be easy. i would simply refuse until after my dating detox. but if it was a non-date, then there isn't any reason to refuse. right?

i thought bout it and decided (based on some stuff including what he's said before) that it's not a date. and hence i accepted his invitation to come and meet me for lunch near my office.

we had a nice time just laughing and chilling out. i still can't tell if we're strictly platonic or not. but for now, i'm still leaning on the side that we're just pretty good friends...