Monday, September 08, 2008

looking forward

maybe i shouldn't be excited... but sometimes it's hard not to be especially when you're so confused bout a pseudo relationship which has in recent weeks seem to be taking a turn where the guy doesn't seem as interested as before and you're doing all the work. sometimes i just want to relax and have fun.

the guy who i winked at on the online dating site some time ago and who sent me an email over a month ago and who i've been chatting via IM very briefly on/off with (i promise you he will have a shorter nickname soon haha!) and i have decided to meet up on wednesday for dinner. and i'm excited bout it. as he asked me some questions, i could tell that he was actually planning it. he asked me what cuisine i liked and where i lived and then said that he will look for a place to have dinner. i really like this kind of proactive-ness.

jo: thanks for planning :P
guy: look fwd to our dinner on wed!
jo: yeah i'm looking forward to it :)
guy: my utmost pleasure and privilege

and when he said...

guy: i think u are a natural strong communicator with high level of eloquence and linguistic capacity

i thought that that was a great compliment. he's certainly someone with an equally high level of "eloquence and linguistic capacity" which is something i value.

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but apparently all that supposed natural strong communication and high levels of eloquence and linguistic skills that i supposedly possess doesn't seem to help me to communiate with drummer boy...

he and i practically had an entire sunday go by without texting each other. i nearly decided not to but then i thought i should be nice and check in if he was feeling better. i texted him at bout 5.30pm and 4 hours later he still hadn't replied. since i felt that wasn't really like him, i decided to call and turns out he didn't receive my text. we didn't chat long 'coz he was having dinner with his friend. but later he IMed me.

and 'coz i'm masochistic that way, i decided to ask him if he wanted to head to this interactive science playground next saturday. we had previously (back when things were good) talked bout going there 'coz we like it and since i had just gotten some passes which would give us a 50% discount, i decided to bring it up again.

so yeah, that's the supposed plan.

jo: we can probably decide on the details later or something...
jo: but yay! i'm looking forward to it :)
drummer boy: orh ok

yeah i'm not sure if that was an okay-we-can-decide-details-later or an okay-i-have-no-idea-how-to-respond-as-to-why-you're-so-excited kinda thing...

but i think that somehow with this one, i just gotta try. give it my best to try and see if i can make it work out somehow. but of 'coz i'm gonna need drummer boy to want to make it work out too... and given the way he's been acting in the last few weeks, i'm really not sure if he wants to even try at all...

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which is probably why i have a slight case of "wandering eyes"... i still can't help but be curious bout the med student... all weekend i was wondering if he would contact me... and then after the whole "3-day rule", i decided to just contact him instead just for the heck of it.

i'm glad that i did. 'coz turns out that dorky me actually keyed in my number wrongly. and it wasn't 'coz i was tipsy... not really... i wasn't that tipsy and besides i've always gotten my number right before. it was purely a typo error on my part. guess i wasn't used to handling his phone.

so i don't know if he even tried to contact me (which i doubt but oh well...) but i'm glad that i "made the first move" so i'll really know in future if he doesn't ever contact me again. but for the time being, we did have a relatively nice text conversation...

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recently this guy from the other online dating site started IMing me on/off. while he seems alright i suppose, i'm slightly unnerved that he keeps commenting on my looks and smile. it seems like he's been "stalking" my pics that i've posted on the online social utility site. and when i call him on it, he "blames" it on the fact that i'm pretty and he loves my smile.

is it weird that sometimes i get all shy when someone comments on my looks? i mean it's nice and all that guys don't usually think i'm such a troll or whatever but i've always found it sweetest when i get commented for other things like my personality or intellect.

but hey, i'll take whatever i can get...

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6 Comments:

At 6:49 PM, OpenID nevergoingbackagain said...

woohoo for your date! i am so excited for you & cannot wait to hear all of the details.

oh drummerboy, part of me wants to tell you to just get rid of him all together, but i know that feeling oh so well!

 
At 10:50 PM, OpenID nevergoingbackagain said...

me again...random thought but do you find it difficult that sometimes online dating makes things turn out backwards? i have noticed this with the past two guys SB & SF. You message, start to text & then start to talk on the phone...it seems for about a week or 2 you talk/text on the phone constantly. then you meet, hang out and *poof* the constant texts & phone calls are gone, regardless if you actually go on several more dates (me & SB) or not. i dont know, it is in a sense a bit disheartening, like now, with SF..although we had a great time Friday & Saturday, I can't help but miss the fact that he called me every evening last week and now I have not heard a thing out of him (except mindless texts that I initiated) since Saturday.
Ho Hum...is online dating somewhat overrated? Sometimes I wonder if I should give it up and go back to just letting it all happen traditionally.

 
At 12:28 AM, Blogger jo said...

nevergoingbackagain: hmm you brought up some interesting points bout online dating... i think the thing with online dating is that both of you go into it knowing that you're both looking for something or someone or whatever. it's not like if i were to meet a random guy or a friend of a friend. that, you can pretend that you're getting to know each other as friends. but with online dating, it's like a mass dating attempt and elimination process. so you eliminate the guy or the guy eliminates you. you try to get to know the person as "partner potential" within the shortest amount of time. hence all the texts and calls and IMs and whatnot. then you meet and you know if there's something there or not. and you either break it off or carry on.

sometimes i really want to go back to the "traditional" way of dating so at least i don't have to lie to explain how he and i met haha! but the thing is that online dating lets you meet people you might normally never cross paths with but could very well have a possible connection with. am i all yeahs for online dating? not really... i mean it can be stressful and it's not like i have any proof that it works for me (though it did work for my friend. she met her husband through an online dating site and at that time they were continents apart! but in the end they got married and are still happily together years later.) but i suppose it does have it's "benefits". afterall how else could you find multiple dates within a short amount of time? plus really who actually successfully sets up their friends anymore?

if i could find another way to meet guys (other than my current bars or online method), i would. but i just don't know...

 
At 10:01 AM, OpenID nevergoingbackagain said...

touche' my friend, touche' :)

 
At 11:55 AM, Blogger Scotty said...

Prospects...

 
At 7:12 PM, Anonymous Heller said...

Interesting post..! Online dating can be successful. A trusted relationship service is most important for that. well, I trust on Chemistry.

 

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